For over a decade, Nikki Glaser has been in an off-and-on relationship with Chris Convy, a producer she met while working on her first MTV show in 2013. And over the years, she’s talked candidly about her unconventional thoughts on monogamy.
During an interview with Graham Bensinger in 2022, Nikki said she wouldn’t be hurt if Chris slept with another woman outside of their relationship, so long as it wasn’t romantic or “emotional.” “I like my boyfriend to at least entertain the idea of being with other women or be with them…I want things that other people want,” she explained. “I wouldn’t mind if [he] had a little fling with someone else…Everyone has their own kinky thing. My thing is, I don’t mind that.”
Notably, Nikki made it very clear she has no desire to have sex with other men simply because it’s “not [her] thing.” And if you’re intrigued by this whole situation, then you’re in luck, as the comedian just discussed the topic in even more detail on the latest episode of The Goop Podcast with Gwyneth Paltrow.
To set the scene, Gwyneth had heard Nikki’s previous comments about non-monogamy and broached the subject by asking if the kink was rooted in “competition,” which is something she’s talked about in the past. Nikki clarified that she is not personally non-monogamous but “wouldn’t mind if [her] boyfriend were to fool around with other people.”
Revealing there have been a “couple” of times “years ago” that Chris has hooked up with other people, Nikki said she’s totally fine with it, so long as the other woman knows it’s nothing more than sex. “I think girls sometimes can be convinced that, ‘He’s gonna leave her for me,’ it’s like, that’s not gonna happen, so just know what this is,” she said before confirming with Gwyneth that the idea of Chris with other women is definitely a “sexual fetish” of hers.
“I think it’s definitely the competition thing of like, Ooh, maybe he will leave me for her. OK, I gotta step it up. I kind of like that. But also, I think he’s hot, and I kind of am like, Try this out. It’s like lending my friend a hairdresser. I don’t know, like, have a good time!” she said. “It’s a fetish. I’ve looked into it, it’s called Hot Husband.” Echoing what she’s said in the past, Nikki emphasized that she doesn’t want to join her partner when he’s having sex with other people, or even have sex with other people herself. Instead, she gets turned on by him coming home and telling her all about it as part of their foreplay.
Nikki talked about the butterflies you get during the early stages of dating and admitted she’s had to “mourn” the fact that she’ll never have that again now she’s in a committed relationship. In response, Gwyneth asked why she wouldn’t be allowed to explore intimacy outside of her relationship, prompting Nikki to clarify her and Chris’s respective boundaries.
“If I’m in a monogamous relationship, I might have that flutter with someone and indulge in it, but it can’t go beyond that… because [my boyfriend] isn’t into that,” she said, explaining that her sleeping with someone else “would be a breach for him.” “So it’s not like a two-way street, which I think is fair because he doesn’t even want this, like, my weird fetish. The strange thing is, he’s like, ‘I don’t need anyone else or crave anyone else, [but] I’ll do it if it turns you on.’”
Nikki said she’s often “reluctant” to discuss her thoughts on non-monogamy out of fear of being perceived as a “‘Pick Me’ girl” who just pretends to be cool with her boyfriend sleeping around. “I wish I didn’t feel this way because it seems like I’m being that kind of girl,” she explained. “I don’t do anything that would cause me pain.”
Concluding, she said: “I guess I’m just confident in like, I’m a pretty good person to date…I don’t wanna catch anything, and I’m not like, I wanna taste her on you. It’s not that kind of thing. Like, shower after, but then tell me about it. It’s always been a part of our foreplay for me to ask him about past girls.” Admitting she’s always had jealousy issues in other parts of her life, Nikki said: “When it comes to my relationship, I just don’t have jealousy over him getting close to other women.”
For what it’s worth, Gwyneth sounded riveted — and honestly, so am I! I highly recommend listening to the full conversation here.
