Tom Sandoval claims he broke up with Ariana Madix weeks earlier than she caught him having an affair with their Vanderpump Guidelines co-star and longtime pal, Raquel Leviss.
Whereas showing on Howie Mandel‘s podcast on Tuesday, Sandoval recommended he and Ariana have been extra like “roommates” and “missing” intimacy earlier than their break up as he admitted Raquel was like a drug, recalled their “magnetic” first kiss, and shaded his castmates for his or her many feedback in regards to the scandal.
“Utilizing this to make it look like the whole lot I’ve completed for them — they make it out like I’m a narcissist,” Sandoval stated of his co-stars on the April 11 episode of Howie Mandel Does Stuff, per Us Weekly. “You’re taking what I did with this affair, and you’re erasing the final 15 years of our friendship.”
“Utilizing all this stuff as content material for his or her podcast. Fellow forged members are asking me all these questions, however you don’t need to know since you care about Ariana [Madix]. You need to know so you might have extra content material on your podcast,” he went on. “It’s f-cking disgusting to me. It’s so gross. You aren’t somebody who offers a flying f-ck about Ariana. You’re doing this on your personal private acquire.”
For the reason that information broke of his and Raquel’s affair in early March, Sandoval has struggled with “darkish ideas” as individuals proceed to debate the matter.
“I don’t know [why it blew up]. I simply suppose it was actually surprising. This occurred when there wasn’t rather a lot happening [in the news],” he suspected.
Sandoval then addressed the gap between him and Ariana within the months main as much as their break up.
“That was kind of mentioned, but it surely sort of went unsaid. Our communication was not nice. I really feel like that’s a fault on each of us,” Sandoval stated, by way of TooFab.
In line with Sandoval, he began “to really feel trapped” in his relationship with Ariana as he approached his fortieth birthday and likened their dynamic to a “actually bleak” scenario.
“[I needed to] make a change to really feel alive once more, to really feel motivated,” he defined, noting that he was in a “very darkish place” and “craving for a connection.”
As each he and Ariana struggled with nervousness and despair, he and Raquel grew to become “actually, actually good pals,” kissing for the primary time in his yard someday after guys’ evening, after they have been seen trying “cozy,” however earlier than Scheana Shay and Brock Davies‘ August 2022 marriage ceremony, the place Raquel kissed Tom Schwartz.
“We kissed. It was like magnetic. We have been speaking, shifting nearer. After which impulsively we’re like kissing,” he recalled. “I felt one thing that I hadn’t felt in so lengthy. Like, emotionally.”
“After Raquel and I kissed and I felt this manner, I received my a– into remedy instantly to attempt to determine what the hell I’m gonna do as a result of the sentiments have been very, very robust,” he continued. “These emotions that I had began to sort of take over. Logic, all that sh-t went out the window.”
Trying again at their preliminary moments collectively, Sandoval stated Raquel was like a drug and admitted it was a “very unhealthy” scenario.
“It made us each obsessive over attempting to see one another and stuff,” he defined.
Though Sandoval was “just a little jealous” when Raquel kissed Schwartz, he stated they solely did so as a result of they “had been crucified like they have been in a full blown relationship by [Katie Maloney] and [Lala Kent].”
Within the weeks that adopted his and Raquel’s first kiss, Sandoval stated he tried to withstand Raquel and commenced going to remedy with Ariana. Nevertheless, whereas he claims he “began to slowly plant the seed” about breaking apart along with her, she gave the impression to be in “denial.”
“She had heard issues and seen issues about Raquel however was very a lot turning a blind eye — or trusting me I assume,” he defined.
Ultimately, Sandoval’s efforts to steer clear of Raquel ended as the 2 of them started spending time collectively “as typically” as attainable and FaceTiming “on a regular basis.”
In the meantime, Ariana didn’t know a factor “as a result of that’s how separate [their] lives have been.”
“I needed to inform her, ‘Have you ever not observed how distant I’ve been recently?’ And she or he’s like, ‘Oh, you might have?’ She didn’t even discover, that’s how our relationship was, we had separate lives,” Sandoval shared. “So once I stated hypothetically if we broke up, she mainly was like, nicely, undoubtedly not going to the reunion, I’m quitting the present, f-ck the sandwich store, we’re promoting the home and deleting all social media and I’m shifting away.”
Regardless of Ariana’s threats, Sandoval stated he dumped her on Valentine’s Day and deliberate to maintain the information to themselves till they may “determine a strategy to navigate this” in a manner that may assist them each.
In line with Sandoval, Ariana was “very upset” and “punched” him.
“She’s like, ‘I’m, like, not letting you allow me. You’re gonna should drive me out of this relationship,’” he claimed. “I didn’t know what to do. She was fully in denial and never accepting it.”
Even after Ariana discovered about his romance with Raquel, Ariana was “attempting to persuade [Sandoval] to not be damaged up” and questioned him about “getting [his] sperm checked to fertilize my eggs.”
“It actually scared me,” he admitted.
Sandoval went on to say that “nothing is excusable for what I did” and confessed he “f—ed up” and “undoubtedly deserved” backlash earlier than including that the one individual he owes a proof to is Ariana.
“On digicam, off digicam, if Ariana desires to know any particulars, I’ll totally go into that. She’s the one one who deserves that,” he stated.
As for the place he stands with Raquel, Sandoval stated, “We’re actually good pals, we’re not placing any label on it. We’re additionally taking a break.”
He then denied they’re “pals with advantages” and admitted “it’s not gonna be simple to return or movie” season 11, though he’s not contractually obligated to return.
Vanderpump Guidelines season 10 airs Wednesdays on Bravo.